Rediscovering Gusto


I must admit that there is something magical about touching the 40th year of my life.And when I look at other 40 plus women around me I can't help but marvel and reflect at this unique yet fascinating phenomenon.






PMZ women are full of energy, passion, curiosity and a will to explore. Many women take to activities they would have never thought of trying a decade ago. They climb mountains, go snorkeling, paint, play the guitar, and learn Spanish. I recently came across a daughter-in-law and a mother-in-law pair who had started dance classes together! Their gusto reminds me of the wild energy of preadolescent girls before they are lost to the Bermuda triangle of adolescence,

Authenticity
Authenticity as 'owning' of all experiences, including emotions and thoughts that are not socially acceptable. It is the 'disowning' which starts at adolescence and can continue well into the 30s. This can make women, feel fragmented and lost in their culturally sanctioned roles. I believe that apart from thoughts and emotions, PMZ women also start 'owning' their body.


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They start enjoying their body as never before and it definitely shows. You can see it in their eyes, voices and posture. Sensuous, sexual and less repressed, they take on life with open arms. At this age there is also a deep and profound need to explore their spiritual self. And what is most intriguing is how they are able to 'own' so many different and paradoxical dimensions with great ease. Playful, sexy, assertive, spiritual and yet nurturing.


Ironically, by putting themselves in the centre of their own worlds PMZ women rise up in most situations to be most forgiving, empathetic and loving. By enriching their own lives they multiply their own capacity for giving and caring. For the past 4 years she has taken to spending a week every year in a spiritual retreat. Reintegrating their fragmented selves, they passionately reach out, reconnect and rejuvenate bonds as wives, mothers, daughters and friends. There is no holding them back. A big salute to the daring PMZ women out there!

Some of you might feel that PMZ has eluded you. Maybe you feel that you have lost that fire somewhere down the line. Do find some time for yourself every day to reflect and listen to your heart. What makes you tick? What do you feel passionately about? What was your childhood dream? What makes you happy? Then go ahead and reclaim your life. One step at a time.

Good luck for your meaningful journey!